Love has soo many aspects to it that we forget to see the more uncommon forms of love. If we look for defination of love, we will find many. All arising from our ow feelings and experience. This story intrigues me on many levels. I cannot help but have very strong emotions related to this. By no means can i remain an impartial observer. 
Suraj was a young man of 23 and belonged to a good family, he met his wife, when he was this age and fell in love with her. Being young and not very cautious he got his then girlfriend pregnant. To make a log story short due to family pressures he married Nanandi. Got a job, supported his wife and his parents and raised 2 daughters. He struggled to give his family the best he could and has been successful in doing so. Many things happen in a lifetime, now 25 years later, Suraj is still a devoted father a committed husband and a successful business man. From the outside looking in theirs is a perfect fairy tale marriage, with happy ending. Nothing in life is this simple.
Suraj is a unhappy man, who has closed big part of himself off. His wife long ago stopped loving him and became bitter with the struggles she had to faced as a married woman. He has made the focus of his life his daughters. they are what keep him going. Everyone sees them as a perfect couple and its an image they have worked hard to maintain. Having a comfortable home is not enough for any human, the home has to have love and tenderness and joy with it, and this was a compromise he had made.
Nanandi in her place is also not a happy woman, marrying Suraj took her from the affluent lifestyle she was used to, and her husband working all hours to make a living took away the romantic notions that were in her head. She made a beautiful home for him and her daughters, and became a perfect wife in the eyes of the world. but like Suraj she also lost her inner being, she lives a life knowing her husband does not love her. This makes her bitter and resentful and she makes it known to him that he is not good enough. and he by his
non response or calm attitude shows her , he doesn't care.
25 years of someones life spent like this. It seems sad to me. tragic in fact. But take another look!! you will see an abundance of love. Just not our typical kind of love. This brings me to my first thought, what is love. personally i think it is when someone Else's happiness is more important than your own. Has Nanandi not shown that, despite a part of her dying inside, she has remained faithful to him and has raised their daughters and given him a perfect home. she did not bail out and in a strange way put his happiness above her own. Look at suraj, building a life for the woman he claims he doesn't love. when all is said and done, the daughters r settled in their own homes, it is just the 2 of them. and unconsciously he is building this life for her. He too has put the hapiness of his daughters and wife above his own. he as well could have ran from this, he didn't, he has made sure his wife has a social standing, lacks nothing and has respect. Is this not love?
I am not going to address the love of both of them for their daughters that is obvious and a given. lucky daughters!!.
The only difference here is that Suraj has a woman he loves a lot. Lalita is a young girl, who is crazy about suraj, she is aware suraj is married and will never leave his wife. This is where my heart strings are pulled viciously. To me this is love, accepting without wanting to change the other person. I am not any ones judge. To me its not a right or wrong issue, its a very human issue of person who is hurting and craving something, which is fulfilled by an unconventional way. Ideally these 2 Suraj and Nanandi should be fulfilling this is each other. But if all of us were such good judges we wouldn't have domestic violence or divorce. People make mistakes, and loving someone is different than living with them. Suraj can feel guilt but the need to be loved is the most binding thing there is and in this i hope Lalita stays with him a long time and they find, what they need.
I will end this on a poignant note. I asked SURAJ.....when you are sad you daughters will notice it....one day they might come and ask.." Dad why didn't you leave mom and chose to be happy".........His answer made me cry. he said by the time my youngest daughter will be married i will be older and may even have grand kids...so the rest of my life will be spent loving them........................I do not know if i call this a good life or a bad life. But it is a persons journey and i would say it is a life well lived.
I wish all three people in this to be happy, they deserve it. I am only happy suraj found someone to love him.
Suraj was a young man of 23 and belonged to a good family, he met his wife, when he was this age and fell in love with her. Being young and not very cautious he got his then girlfriend pregnant. To make a log story short due to family pressures he married Nanandi. Got a job, supported his wife and his parents and raised 2 daughters. He struggled to give his family the best he could and has been successful in doing so. Many things happen in a lifetime, now 25 years later, Suraj is still a devoted father a committed husband and a successful business man. From the outside looking in theirs is a perfect fairy tale marriage, with happy ending. Nothing in life is this simple.
Suraj is a unhappy man, who has closed big part of himself off. His wife long ago stopped loving him and became bitter with the struggles she had to faced as a married woman. He has made the focus of his life his daughters. they are what keep him going. Everyone sees them as a perfect couple and its an image they have worked hard to maintain. Having a comfortable home is not enough for any human, the home has to have love and tenderness and joy with it, and this was a compromise he had made.
Nanandi in her place is also not a happy woman, marrying Suraj took her from the affluent lifestyle she was used to, and her husband working all hours to make a living took away the romantic notions that were in her head. She made a beautiful home for him and her daughters, and became a perfect wife in the eyes of the world. but like Suraj she also lost her inner being, she lives a life knowing her husband does not love her. This makes her bitter and resentful and she makes it known to him that he is not good enough. and he by his
non response or calm attitude shows her , he doesn't care.
25 years of someones life spent like this. It seems sad to me. tragic in fact. But take another look!! you will see an abundance of love. Just not our typical kind of love. This brings me to my first thought, what is love. personally i think it is when someone Else's happiness is more important than your own. Has Nanandi not shown that, despite a part of her dying inside, she has remained faithful to him and has raised their daughters and given him a perfect home. she did not bail out and in a strange way put his happiness above her own. Look at suraj, building a life for the woman he claims he doesn't love. when all is said and done, the daughters r settled in their own homes, it is just the 2 of them. and unconsciously he is building this life for her. He too has put the hapiness of his daughters and wife above his own. he as well could have ran from this, he didn't, he has made sure his wife has a social standing, lacks nothing and has respect. Is this not love?
I am not going to address the love of both of them for their daughters that is obvious and a given. lucky daughters!!.
The only difference here is that Suraj has a woman he loves a lot. Lalita is a young girl, who is crazy about suraj, she is aware suraj is married and will never leave his wife. This is where my heart strings are pulled viciously. To me this is love, accepting without wanting to change the other person. I am not any ones judge. To me its not a right or wrong issue, its a very human issue of person who is hurting and craving something, which is fulfilled by an unconventional way. Ideally these 2 Suraj and Nanandi should be fulfilling this is each other. But if all of us were such good judges we wouldn't have domestic violence or divorce. People make mistakes, and loving someone is different than living with them. Suraj can feel guilt but the need to be loved is the most binding thing there is and in this i hope Lalita stays with him a long time and they find, what they need.
I will end this on a poignant note. I asked SURAJ.....when you are sad you daughters will notice it....one day they might come and ask.." Dad why didn't you leave mom and chose to be happy".........His answer made me cry. he said by the time my youngest daughter will be married i will be older and may even have grand kids...so the rest of my life will be spent loving them........................I do not know if i call this a good life or a bad life. But it is a persons journey and i would say it is a life well lived.
I wish all three people in this to be happy, they deserve it. I am only happy suraj found someone to love him.
